Hebrews 4:12-13 "For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 13 And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account."

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Psalm 127:3-5

“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one's youth.
5 Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them;
They shall not be ashamed,
But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.”

As we have started every lesson in this three part series, we have recognized that our children are a gift of God. Yet, they are unique among gifts, as they are gifts with crucial responsibilities.


Ephesians 6:1-4 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: 3 “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”
4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.”


Likewise, as we have looked into Paul's text to the Ephesians in each lesson; we have picked out different points to study and emphasize. In this last lesson, we want to look at two points:


1) Children, Honor Your Father and Mother.

The idea behind honoring something, is to hold it in high esteem. When Paul would give the qualification of elders, their children were to be in subjection with all reverence (1 Timothy 3:4). True esteem is based on submission and reverence. Arguing with your parents is not reverence and definitely not submission!

There will come a time in your life kids, when you think you know better than your parents. You don't !

The rules and parameters your parents establish are there for your greater good, you do understand them, but the real issue is that you just don't like them! This is not the Lord's way!

Proverbs 6:20-23 My son, keep your father's command, And do not forsake the law of your mother. 21 Bind them continually upon your heart; Tie them around your neck. 22 When you roam, they will lead you; When you sleep, they will keep you; And when you awake, they will speak with you. 23 For the commandment is a lamp, And the law a light; Reproofs of instruction are the way of life,”

Colossians 3:20 “Children, obey your parents in all things , for this is well pleasing to the Lord.”

There will come a time in your lives; children, when you will be in full control of the decisions in your life. Even when this transpires, you would do well to remember your parents and the need in your life for rules and parameters.


2) Fathers, Bring Them Up.

As it has happened in each lesson in this series, we have come back to where the true responsibility lies for our children (Fathers, establishing foundations and training regiments, Help-Meets supporting, and re-enforcing him). If we want our children to reverence and obey us, we had better act in their best interest.

The idea of “bring them up” , comes from the concept of a nurseryman. A nurseryman does everything and provides everything necessary for a plant to grow straight and tall.

Thus far, we have talked about the need for our children to be trained by discipline. Additionally, we have talked about preparing our children for a real life in this world. In this lesson, we want to advance their training and preparation by discussing their education.


This lesson is very important, because of the laissez-faire attitude of many parents, towards our responsibility to teach our children . Many parents send their children to school to receive an education and think they are fulfilling their responsibility for much of the teaching our children need.

O Foolish Parents !

What are our children learning about in school? Reading , writing, and arithmetic you say! You really need to take a closer look at the influence our schools are brining to bear on our children , for such subjects as; God, evolution, social interaction, acceptance, public displays of affection, marriage, personal image, dress, music, behavior, etc…

Our children need an education, and this lesson is not designed to argue between home schooled or public. This lesson is designed to enforce God's true intent of who is responsible for the our children's education.

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.”


Another mistake many of us make, is that we believe that the education of our children in the Lord is the churches responsibility. The elders of the church have been given the responsibility in shepherding the flock, which includes the need to feed all the flock . However, Paul was very clear that it was the father that is responsible for the training of his children in the Lord. In addition, as we looked at in the first point, children are to obey their parents in the Lord, giving honor to their fathers and mothers.


The very idea of children as a gift of God, is that of dependence! The biblical importance of training and teaching our children is found in the portion of our text where Paul would quote Moses, note:

Deuteronomy 5:16 “Honor your father and your mother, as the LORD your God has commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may be well with you in the land which the LORD your God is giving you.” 

It is our job fathers and help-meets, to bring up our children in the training, and admonition of the Lord; which cannot happen without proper instruction. We must prioritize this for our children if we truly want it to be well with them!


Now, as we did in our previous lesson, we want to look at some of the subjects that we need to evaluate and supplement the education our children are receiving. Again, this list is not exhaustive, but just to get us thinking about some of the subjects we must ensure our children are learning from us!


Teach Them:


•  About Their Appearance.

Don't debate with them concerning your taste verse theirs (Unless it is vulgar or offensive to others)? Demand that they understand that how they present themselves directly reflects on us as parents. We need to teach them modesty and that looking like the world is not as important as our reverence for God and us as parents. Teach them what Peter taught Christian wives, note:

1 Peter 3:4 “rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”


•  About Their Language.

I used to think that my mom was a little extreme in correcting our children concerning certain words they used; however, the older I get and the more daring language gets among children, I see the wisdom in controlling language in our children .

Proverbs 10:19 “In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise.”


•  About Appropriate Social Interaction.

Start with the importance of respect for others and why we do not hold to hatred or prejudice.

Galatians 6:10 “Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith.”

We must also start very early to teach our children what we will accept concerning public displays of affection and dating. These rules must be set early and firmly, fairly, and consistently enforced. Train our children to understand that their public behavior is a direct reflection of whether or not they reverence God or us. We must teach them early to “abstain from fleshly lusts which war against the soul” (1 Peter 2:11).


•  About Marriage.

Why would we teach our children when they are young about marriage? How successful are you truly in teaching them anything when they think they are in love? I emphasize that they think they are in love. Most of our children don't have a clue what true love is, because we have not taught them from the very start and shown them examples from the start.

We had better teach them young what God teaches concerning marriage and the sin of divorce. What they should look for in a mate. We had better teach them early what love really is, so that when the touchy feely is over and money, intimate relations, and family begin to wear on the marriage, they know what to do. Show them early examples of marriage in sickness and health, good and bad, godly and un-godly. That men are to treat their wives as themselves, and wives are to reverence their husbands and what that really means.


•  To Love God.

Although this subject should be first on the list, I wanted it to be the last thing you thought about in developing your list of things to teach our children .

-We need to teach our children that all human love, whether God ward or man ward, has its source in God!

-We need to teach our children that love finds its truest expression in service to God and others.

-We must teach our children that we must love God supremely or our faithfulness has no meaning!

Galatians 5:6 “For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision avails anything, but faith working through love.”


There are many things that we as parents can add to all three of these lessons as vital in the training and admonition of the Lord. Likewise, if you don't think you will ever know all that you will need to teach and prepare our children ; that's OK! Trust in the Lord, and allow His instruction to be your tutor. Remember, the worst thing you can do is ignore your responsibility!

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.”


This is the greatest gift we can give

Our Children!