Hebrews 4:12-13 "For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 13 And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account."

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"The Peace of Christ"

Part 5

Making Peace with Families


1 . We have seen that Jesus, the Prince of Peace, offers….

a. Peace with God, through justification and reconciliation.
b. Peace with mankind , through abolishing barriers.
c. Peace with oneself, one that surpasses understanding and guards our heart.


2. What about peace with families? Did not Jesus say?

a. His disciples would be persecuted by their own families? - Matthew 10:21-22.
b. He came to set family members against each other - Matthew 10:34-37.


3. It is true that following Jesus sometimes causes family turmoil….

a. When unbelieving family members cannot accept one's conversion to Christ.
b. Where resistance to such faith results in expulsion and disinheritance, or worse.


[Even so, when families are willing to submit themselves to the will of God, Jesus and His apostles show the way to true peace within families. But first, let's consider…..]


A. Many Families are Dysfunctional….

1. Where conflict, misbehavior and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occurs continually, leading other members to accommodate such actions.

2. Where children grow up understanding such conduct to be normal --dysfunctional behavior is often passed down from generation to generation.


B. Family Dysfunction Destroys Peace.

1. Between husbands and wives, leading to fights and divorce.

2. Between parents and children, leading to mental and physical abuse.

3. Between siblings, leading to life-long alienation

-- dysfunctional behavior often creates a volatile home environment.


[Where peace is not in the home, it is rarely in the heart. When we do not have peace in the home, we often lash out at others at work, at school, at church. But now let's examine how….]


II Jesus Offers True Peace For Families
A. By His Teaching On Marriage

1. Jesus taught that marriage is to be for life.

a. It was God's plan for the family from the beginning –

Matthew 19:3-6 “The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?" [4] And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' [5] and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? [6] So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."


b. So much family turmoil is caused when spouses divorce –

Malachi 2:16 "For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce……”


2. Jesus gave only one reason to dissolve a marriage:

a. That reason is fornication – Matthew 5:31-32; Matthew 19:6-9.
b. Obeying Jesus prevents quick and easy divorces

-- Commitment to marriage is a big step toward preserving family peace!


B. By His Apostles' Teaching on Family…

1. Husbands are to love and respect their wives.

a. They are to love their wives – Ephesians 5:25-29.
b. They are not to be bitter towards their wives -

Colossians 3:19 “Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.”

c. They are to understand and honor their wives –

1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.”

2. Wives are to love and submit to their husbands.

a. Older women are to teach the younger women to love their husbands.

Titus 2:3-4 “the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things-- [4] that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,”

b. Wives are to submit to their husbands as the church submits to Christ – Ephesians 5:22-24.
c. It is fitting in the Lord, even as we all submit to one another –

Colossians 3:18 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”

Ephesians 5:21 “submitting to one another in the fear of God.”

d. In so doing, they become “daughters of Sarah”-

1 Peter 3:1-6 “Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, [2] when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. [3] Do not let your adornment be merely outward--arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-- [4] rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. [5] For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, [6] as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.”

3. Parents are to raise their children properly.

a. Fathers are not to provoke their children to wrath – Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21.
b. Fathers are to bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord- Ephesians 6:4.
c. Mothers are to love their children, manage the house –

Titus 2:4 “that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,”

1 Timothy 5:14 “Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”

4. Children are to obey and honor their parents.

a. They are to obey their parents in the Lord – Ephesians 6:1.
b. They are to honor their father and mother – Ephesians 6:2-3.

c. This is well-pleasing to the Lord, who also submitted to His parents-

Colossians 3:20 “Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord.”

Luke 2:51 “Then He went down with them and came to Nazareth , and was subject to them, but His mother kept all these things in her heart.”

--Commitment to family duties produces peace and harmony in the home!


III. The Peace Jesus Offers to Families.
A. By Their Fruits You Shall Know Them…..

1. Many oppose what the Bible teaches concerning marriage, ending in divorce.

2. They rebel against such concepts as wives submitting to husbands.

3. But consider the lives and families of those who protest so loudly.

-- As Jesus said , “…by their fruits you will know them” Matthew 7:15-20.


B. Wisdom Is Justified by Her Children…..

1. Compare marriages and families of those who submit to Biblical principles:

a. Look in the papers of people who are married 50, 60, and even 70 years.
b. That did not just happen.

2. Life-long marriages and loving families can be the norm for generations, not the exception, where the teachings of Christ are followed!

--As Jesus said, “…wisdom is justified by her children” Matthew 11:19.


C. Our True Family is God's Family…..

1. Despite ones best efforts, sometimes other family members do not cooperate.

2. Spouses may not become believers, and even leave – 1 Corinthians 7:12-15.

3. Family members may become enemies over the faith –

Matthew 10:21 “Now brother will deliver up brother to death, and a father his child; and children will rise up against parents and cause them to be put to death.”

4. We have a much larger family that can offer support –

Mark 10:28 -30 “Then Peter began to say to Him, "See, we have left all and followed You." [29] So Jesus answered and said, "Assuredly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands, for My sake and the gospel's, [30] who shall not receive a hundredfold now in this time—houses and brothers and sisters and mothers and children and lands, with persecutions—and in the age to come, eternal life.”

-- There can be peace of mind in knowing one's true family Matthew 12:48-50.



1. The best hope for peace with the family comes from above…..

a. Don't listen to “family experts” whose own lives and families are a mess.
b. Listen to the God of peace who ordained the institutions of marriage and family.


2. Put your trust in His Son Jesus Christ, who together with His apostles…

a. Provide clear teaching concerning marriage and family.
b. Will lead you and your families into the paths of peace!


Luke 1:79 “To give light to those who sit in darkness and the shadow of death, to guide our feet into the way of peace."