Hebrews 4:12-13 "For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 13 And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account."

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Will You Marry Me?”


How much do you know about marriage?

In observance of humanity, I am persuaded to believe that too many know too little about this subject. I invite you to study this very important theme as God has instructed and instituted this union.

The need is obvious. It is obvious by the fact that two out of three marriages end in divorce today (a stat that has even found its way into the “Body of Christ”). It is obvious by the advice given by marriage counselors, preachers, in-laws, lawyers, advice columnists, and by this entire like. It is obvious by the attitude of many of our civil authorities, Senators, representatives, and so on. It is obvious by the teaching that our children are exposed to in our public schools.

It is interesting to note that none of the above, including most preachers, refer to God’s word in dealing with marital problems, or even teaching in advance the understanding of marriage as God has revealed it. God’s word affirms that there is not a problem that a husband or wife may have that God doesn’t answer.

The key is: APPLICATION!!!

To continue with our study of the marriage relationship and its corresponding responsibilities, let us revisit a passage of scripture we introduced in the previous lesson:

Titus 2:4-5that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”

In this passage, we learn that older women are instructed to teach the young women to love their husbands, children, to be discreet, homemakers, good, and obedient.

The part of this passage that we want to discuss, just here, is the fact that wives are to be “keepers of the home”“homemakers”. To Timothy, Paul says the same thing, note:

1 Timothy 5:14Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”

There is no precedence being set here that the wife is to be a prisoner within the four walls of a house. It does; however, mean that she is responsible for making the house a home. This is the highest calling that a woman can have!

Remember that the home is the very basis, fabric, and foundation of civilization, and is the making or breaking point of any society. It has been said, and is still true that, “As the family goes, so goes the nation”.  A woman may be the CEO of a fortune 500 company, but if she makes the house a home at the same time and as her priority, this is where the honor is before her God, family, and society.

It takes a great deal of living in a home to make it a home and it is the responsibility of the wife to guide or make the setting for that kind of living. A home is built and maintained by love, understanding, tenderness, emotions, kindness, discipline, and cares that she alone as a virtuous woman can manifest (even though many of these are shared responsibilities, each of the harmonic duo bring unique capabilities to the table). This is why God chose her to be the keeper of the home. It is in the home that the atmosphere is set for a happy family (predicated on the foundations established by God, enforced by the husband, and jointly accomplished by the help-meet).The home ought to be a haven for the entire family, whereby they can all be folded into the bosom  of God. If chaos reigns in the home, then time is spent uselessly attempting to restore the order that should already exist by the role of the wife, and detracting from that which should be the order and priorities of family life.

The older women are to instruct; the younger women are to learn the value inherent in their roles as home makers in order to leave a legacy or signature of the wisdom of God for generations to come.

This enforces the fact that for a woman to be the keeper of the home means that her responsibility to her husband and children comes before any activity outside of the marriage relationship. The older women must instruct the younger to see the value of this first and foremost in order to establish this priority before she seeks any other outside of the home interest.

Even though the house is the base or headquarters of the operation of being a keeper at home, it by no means, means that she is confined to a house. The responsibilities of being a keeper at home are many and varied. How many and how varied depends upon several circumstances such as the health and needs of the husband, the number and needs of the children, the economical state of the family, and yes, even the health and needs of the wife.

A wife needs to do a great deal of the programing and scheduling. In spite of the modern conveniences, hers is still pretty much a full-time job.

We find often and in many varied ways that women of the scriptures were often outside the home, assisting the husband in various ways in the family business and or looking to the assets of the family in her own way; yet, in all of this the charge of God to be a homemaker was never dismissed, ignored, or minimized!

A note to husbands, to all the men who would seek to demonstrate the commands of God to “Love your wife as yourself”; you would in addition never undermining the effective efforts of your wife in making the home. In fact, since she is helping you meet one of the goals given you by God; you should instead be doing everything within your power to support and assist her in this given responsibility.

This in no way makes you a lesser man, but in fact shows your clear understanding of two being one (effective harmony by seeing the value of each part of the harmony).

A note to children, this is why the Apostle Paul commands that you “obey your parents in the Lord” Ephesians 6:1. Paul knew that the success of the home was predicated on a dual set of responsibilities with each part adding to the harmony of the home. Even though the father is charged with the universal responsibility to bring their children “up in the training and admonition of the Lord” Ephesians 6:4; that the wife was to help him meet this goal, so she was to be honored as well as the father – Ephesians 6:2. He also knew that this unified front would accomplish the complete charge as given by God (not Sunday school, youth ministers, not Bible camps, but Dad and Mom! You are the youth ministers! If they are not developing a love for God and the truth, look in the mirror!).

Next: We will look at some Terms that are Essential for Happy Marriages!