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The Dangers of Resentment

By Robert H. Goodloe, Sr.

The origin of the word "resentment" is from the Latin word "resento"; which means to re-feel, or to feel again. When someone hurts you deeply, temporarily you may shove that tragic memory into your subconscious mind. Then something happens to bring those painful memories back again, and you "re-feel" or feel again the full agony and hurt of it. You may even show those feelings by lashing out in anger and resentment at someone else. e. g. Esther 3:16. Sometimes people lose control like Haman and become revengeful.

Married couples are often specialists in resentment. They probe around in the garbage dump searching for old sharp bones of contention from the past so they can use them as weapons to hurt one another. What can you do with resentment?

Philippians 3:13-14 Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, 14 I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”

Brethren, that "forgetting" does not mean "not to remember"; but rather Paul is advancing the idea that our painful past should no longer influence our potential in the present. Oh, what a liberating thought!

It is very difficult - - "NO"- - it is IMPOSSIBLE to handle resentment on your own. I know only one way to deal with the problem of resentment. I must follow the example of Christ who willingly suffered unjust treatment in order to demonstrate his love for abusive and unappreciative people.

(Matthew 27:39-43; 50, 54)

Luke 23:34 Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do.”

And they divided His garments and cast lots.”

Peter expressed the thought in these words.

1 Peter 2:21-23 For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps:

22 “Who committed no sin, Nor was deceit found in His mouth”;

23 who, when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously”

Stephen followed in the steps of Jesus. (Acts 7:54-60)

Paul walked in His pathway, and left the words of 1 Corinthians 4:10-14.

When we think of the unjust agony our Lord willingly took upon Himself - - His trial was unjust; Pilate knew Jesus had done nothing worthy of death; His wife had warned him, But he had his soldiers scourge Him anyway. Pilate may have been trying to say to the mob "I've scourged him - - Scourging is enough". But it wasn't enough. A blood-thirsty crowd cried out, "Crucify Him! Crucify Him!" So he hung on the cross absolutely innocent. Even as His executioners were putting Him to death he cried out (without resentment) for people who had not requested His forgiveness. "Father forgive them, for they know not what they are doing."

Jesus took the initiative to forgive those who never even requested it. He did his part whether the crowd accepted it or not. Their forgiveness came later when they realized that Jesus had taken the loving initiative and met their hate and resentment with His forgiveness. His anticipating actions melted their hearts. In his loving effort to put things right they cried "What must we do to be saved." (Acts 2:37)

While it is true that God rewards only those who request His forgiveness; it is His intent to lavish His forgiveness upon them - - it is His intent to pour his forgiveness upon every person. God demonstrates his love for us in this way. While we were still rebellious sinners Christ died for us. (Romans 5:6-8)