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True Kindness Starts With Me!

“Be kindly and affectionate to one another” – Romans 12:9-21.

“The fruit of the Spirit is peace, kindness, and goodness” – Galatians 5:22-23.

“Do good to all, especially the household of faith” – Galatians 6:10.

“Put on kindness, forbearing, and forgiveness” – Colossians 3:12-14.

“Add to your faith brotherly kindness” – 2 Peter 1:5-7.

1 John 2:9-11 “He who says he is in the light, and hates his brother, is in darkness until now. 10 He who loves his brother abides in the light, and there is no cause for stumbling in him. 11 But he who hates his brother is in darkness and walks in darkness, and does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes.”

Beyond a shadow of a doubt, the Apostles of Jesus Christ demanded a universal understanding that the children of God (Christians, Disciples of Christ, saints, servants of the Lord, and stewards) be loving and kind to one another.

However, as with much of the Bible instruction, there is a great amount of subjection inserted into the understanding of kindness.

To learn how to truly be kind, is to make application in every forum of our lives, not just worship! So, let’s learn the most important principles of true Christian kindness!!!

Unfriendly People –

What kind of people are we?  We must perform an honest examination!!!

One of the most fundamental and actually true principles in human relations, is that people tend to criticize in others what they actually dislike in themselves!

The man who complains about how difficult everyone else is to get along with, often has trouble getting along with others.

The woman who criticizes how others raise their children, often did not raise her own properly.

The person that complains that no one is kind to them often is the one who ignores others.

The scriptures recognize this as the behavior of self-deception (trying to hide your own faults by looking at others). Matthew 7:1-5

Remove the Plank –

Have we ever complained about the congregation or even a single person being unfriendly?

It tends to be the problem of hiding one’s own faults! Matthew 26:21-25

·         Am I the one who turns and looks the other way to keep from speaking?

·         Am I the one who slips into a tight circle to ignore others?

·         Am I the one who races for the door the minute the service is over?

·         Am I the one who refuses to speak until spoken to?

·         Am I the one who never calls anyone and complains that no one calls me (or visits, etc…)?


Matthew 7:5 “Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

More importantly - Philippians 2:3-4 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”

Be Friendly –

Proverbs 18:24 “A man who has friends must himself be friendly,
But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
(did your hear the last part – what are the conditions of this specific friend?)

Proverbs 19:6 “Many entreat the favor of the nobility,
And every man is a friend to one who gives gifts.”

If each of us give the gift of friendship without equivocation (alternative motives), demands, or conditions – guess what happens???

We often do very well calling on the sick; but what about calls of encouragement?

The friendliest, nicest, most likable folks (demonstrating the behavior the Lord instructs), are those who are simply, and honestly being concerned about others without the worry of what they receive in return???

“Do all things without murmuring and disputing” Philippians 2:14  

Let us be brothers, sisters, and friends!!!